By Diana Proemm
“Look where you want to go, not where you don’t want to go.” I have said this mantra to people while teaching skiing, kayaking and mountain biking many times over. This phrase was taught to me while learning these activities. I now say them regularly when approaching a technical section of trail on my mountain bike, or tree run while skiing. This saying can be used as a mantra for life too. Similarly to these sports, when you look where you want to go, you naturally and mindfully follow a path of least resistance.
To this day it never ceases to amaze me that when I look where I want to go, I get there whether it’s on my bike or in life. My wanderlust takes me to places near and far often. I had zero desire to visit or live in Texas, but once I made peace with living there, the gems I have found have been plentiful. Happiness is where the heart is they say. It’s doubtful that I will stay in Texas long term as I miss the mountains so, but it’s ok for now. Looking for where I want to go next is on my daily task list.
Here are a few ways you can look where you want to go in 2017.
This title is a bit cliché but it works when done right. It is ok to develop and set goals, but it’s the objectives you set with them that bring you closer to achieving them. The objectives are the details with time lines and accountability that keep you on track. Create attainable objectives that will bring you closer to your end goal. Write them down and hold yourself accountable or find a friend to help.
Let The Past Go, and Learn From It
There are negative images in my past that haunt me from time to time. They pop up out of nowhere and ring my door. Typically, I honor the memory, and then let it go again. What is in the past, is rightly in the past, let it stay there. Don’t give it power over you. My mode of letting go is thinking about what I want to do in my future and makes me forgot that negative thought.
Move Towards What You Desire Most
When my negative thoughts pop up, I redirect them to what will bring me forward in my future. There is no point is thinking about what is over and you cannot control anymore. (If you cannot get past an issue, I recommend consulting a therapist.) Once you trick yourself into this habit, the thoughts disappear quickly or do not return at all. Look where you want to go in your future, 2017 and beyond. Do NOT look where you don’t want to go, as it may only involve the possibility of hitting a tree head on. Attempt to achieve a purposeful state of mindfulness moving in the direction of your desires.
I hope you have a fabulous New Year and much success, happiness and adventure in 2017.
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